by Adam Kronberger / Head of School
As parents, we have all been there. Our child wrongfully offended another sibling or neighborhood friend and has failed to make amends. Fortunately, our profound parental wisdom does not overlook the wrongdoing, but forces our child to look the offended in the eye and declare, “Sooorrry.” Or perhaps, if it is a good parenting day, we might even require the more verbose, “I was wrong, will you forgive me?”
While controlling outward behavior may comfort a parent’s conscience, it generally does not initiate the needed ongoing transformation in a child’s heart. It is certainly wise and loving to teach our children how to confess when they are wrong. But when the child simply learns how to go through the motions, our efforts can be counterproductive if the child learns to disconnect their behavior from their heart. Our children must fully understand that sin lives inside of them, and because of that, they are in desperate need of God’s rescuing, forgiving, transforming, and delivering mercy. Children will fail to surrender to God’s governance in their lives until they truly understand the failures of their own self-governance.
“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read” is a well-known quote by Charlie ‘Tremendous’ Jones. The wisdom of Proverbs similarly declared thousands of years ago, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another,” (27:17), and “whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment” (18:1).
Throughout scripture we find God’s design for His people to live and grow in community. For example, my understanding of Godly parenting has greatly increased through the routine process of learning from others through dialogue, video, and text. I am so grateful for the deep well of wisdom found in the CCS community. Many in our community recently signed up for 10,000+ Bible Study videos available through instant streaming, covering a wide variety of topics, including parenting. If you haven't signed up yet, simply click on rightnow MEDIA (you can also text RightNow Crosshill to 41411 to join on your smartphone). Join the dozens of parents who have already accessed this free resource available through CCS. You won’t be “Sooorrry!”.
– Adam Kronberger / Head of School